Yesterday was my wife’s birthday and we had a great time with family!
Overall, she had a pretty enjoyable day doing some things that she loves. As I think now about how I acted yesterday, I feel very convicted. It’s not that I acted poorly or even harsh towards her in any way. Quite the opposite actually.
Yesterday, I woke knowing that it was her day. I tried my best to serve her and be kind to her in every way that came to mind. That’s what hits me this morning.
In Colossians 3, Paul writes “Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.” Paul expands on this thought further in Ephesians chapter 5, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.” (Col. 3:19-28)
For those of us who are husbands, this is not very difficult to do on our wives’ birthday. It’s not that difficult on our anniversary. It’s not that difficult when our wife’s safety or well-being is at risk in some way.
However, on a regular day, with the stresses of life, when the football game is about to start and we’re about as self-righteous and self-serving as anyone could be; at that point, for some reason, it’s difficult to love our wives. It’s at that point when our desire to be kind and serving is so non-existent. Many times, we don’t even realise she’s still in the room with us.
It’s so sad, and I believe it makes God sad.
So, for us husbands who aren’t celebrating a birthdays or anniversaries today; may we love our wives as Christ loves His bride (church). If, for whatever reason, that seems unfathomable? At least, may we love them as we love ourselves.
Today, how will you love your spouse?